10 Tips on how to be a successful wife
Muhammad Al-Shareef
1. Make Dua to Allah to make your marriage and relationship
successful.
All
good things are from Allah. Never forget to ask Allah ta'ala for
the blessing of having a successful marriage that begins
in this
Dunya and continues on - by the Mercy of Allah ta'ala - into Jannah.
2. Listen and Obey!
Obeying your
husband is Fard! Your husband is the Ameer of the
household. Give him that right and respect.
3. Always seek
to please your husband, for he is your key to Jannah.
Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - taught us that any women
who
dies in a state where her husband is pleased with her, shall
enter Jannah. So .. please him.
4. An argument
is a fire in the house.
Extinguish it with a simple 'I'm sorry' even if it is not your
fault.
When you fight back,
you are only adding wood to the fire. Watch how
sweetly an argument will end when you just say sincerely, "Look, I'm
sorry.
Let's be friends."
5. Thank your husband constantly for the nice things he does.
Then thank him again. This
is one of the most important techniques,
as the opposite is a characteristic of the women of hellfire.
6. Joke
and play games with your husband.
A mans secret: they seek women who are light-hearted and have a
sense of humor. As
Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - told
Jabir to marry someone who would make him laugh and he would make
her
laugh.
7. Always wear jewelry and dress up in the house.
From the early years, little girls have adorned themselves
with
earrings and bracelets and worn pretty dresses - as described in the
Qur'an. As a wife, continue to use the jewelry
that you have and the
pretty dresses for your husband.
8. Review the characteristics of the Hoor Al-Ayn and
try to imitate
them
The Qur'an and Sunnah describe the women in Jannah with certain
characteristics. Such as the
silk they wear, their large dark eyes,
their singing to their husband, etc. Try it, wear silk for your
husband, put
Kohl in your eyes to 'enlarge' them, and sing to your
husband.
9. When your husband comes home, greet him with
a wonderful greeting
Imagine your husband coming home to a clean house, an exquisitely
dressed wife, a dinner prepared
with care, children clean and sweet
smelling, a clean bedroom - what would this do to his love for you?
Now imagine
what the opposite does to him.
10. Use your 'Fitnah' to win the heart of your husband
All women have the ornaments
that Allah blessed them with. Use the
beauty Allah - Azza wa Jal - has bestowed you with to win the heart
of your husband.
