The Rights of Children in Islam
Let us first establish that children in accordance with the Islamic concept
means both male and female. Some Islamic opponents accuse Islam of differentiating between male and female children claiming
that Islam prefers boys over girls in terms of inheritance, 'Aqeeqa (slaughter of two lambs upon the birth of a male baby,
and one lamb only for a baby girl) and other matters. In accordance with the true Islamic teaching, both male and female are
alike in the sight of Allah, the Almighty. Each, however, is physically prepared and equipped to perform certain tasks and
duties that are suitable to his/her nature. All, again are equal in religious duties, except for certain exceptions that are
defined and illustrated by Allah, the Almighty, in the Glorious Quran, or declared and specified by Allah’s Apostle,
PBUH. Only these differences are to be acknowledged and honored and only in accordance with Islam and its teachings.
Children, according to Islam, are entitled to various rights. The first
and foremost of these rights is the right to be properly brought up, raised and educated. This means that children should
be given suitable, sufficient, sound and adequate religious, ethical and moral guidance to last them for their entire lives.
They should be engraved with true values, the meaning of right and wrong, true and false, correct and incorrect, appropriate
and inappropriate and so forth and so on. Allah, the Almighty stated in the Glorious Qur’an:
"O ye who believe! Save yourselves and your families from a Fire
whose fuel is Men and Stones." (66:6)
Allah’s Apostle, PBUH also said: "Every one of you (people) is
a shepherd. And every one is responsible for whatever falls under his responsibility. A man is like a shepherd of his own
family, and he is responsible for them." This Hadith is reported by both Bukhari and Muslim.
Children, therefore are a trust given to the parents. Parents will be responsible
for this trust on the Day of Judgement. Parents are essentially responsible for the moral, ethical and the basic and essential
religious teachings of their children.
If parents fulfill this responsibility, they will be free of the consequences
on the Day of Judgement. The children will become better citizens and a pleasure to the eyes of their parents, first in this
life, and in the hereafter.
Allah, the Almighty stated in the Glorious Quran:
"And those who believe and whose families follow them in Faith,
to them shall We join their families: Nor shall We deprive them (of the fruit) of aught of their works: (Yet) is each individual
in pledge for his deeds." (52:21)
Moreover, Allah's Apostle, PBUH said: "Upon death, man's deeds will
(definitely) stop except for three deeds, namely: a continuous charitable fund, endowment or goodwill; knowledge left for
people to benefit from; and pious righteous and God-fearing child who continuously prays Allah, the Almighty, for the soul
of his parents." This Hadith is reported by Muslim.
In fact, such a statement reflects the value of the proper upbringing of
children. It has an everlasting effect, even after death.
Unfortunately, many parents from every walk of life, in every society,
regardless of creed, origin, social and economical status, etc., have neglected this very important imposed right of their
own children on them. Such individuals have indeed lost their children as a result of their own negligence. Such parents are
so careless about the time their children spend with no benefit, the friends they associate with, the places they go to, etc.
Such parents do not care, are totally indifferent about where their children go, when they come back and so forth and so on,
causing the children to grow up without any responsible adult and without caring supervision. Such parents neglect even to
instruct, direct or guide their children to the proper way of life, behaviour or even right attitudes towards others. Yet,
you may find these parents are so careful about guarding their wealth. They are extremely concerned about their businesses,
work and otherwise. They exert every possible effort to lead a very successful life in terms of materialistic gains, although
all this wealth is not actually theirs. No one will take wealth to the grave.
Children are not only to be well-fed, well-groomed, properly dressed for
the weather and for appearance, well-taken care of in terms of housing and utilities. It is more important to offer the child
comparable care in terms of educational, religious training, and spiritual guidance. The heart of a child must be filled with
faith. A child’s mind must be entertained with proper guidance, knowledge and wisdom. Clothes, food, housing, schooling
are not, by any means, an indication of proper care of the child. Proper education and guidance is far more important to a
child than this food, grooming and appearance.
One of the due rights of children upon their parents is their spending
for their welfare and well-being moderately. Over-spending or negligence is not condoned, accepted or even tolerated in Islam.
Such ways will have a negative effect on the child regardless of the social status. Men are urged not to be miserly to their
children and households, who are their natural heirs in every religion and society. Why would one be miserly to those who
are going to inherit his wealth? Children are entitled to such an important right. They are even permitted to take moderately
from their parent's wealth to sustain themselves if the parent declines to give them proper funds for their living.
Children also have the right to be treated equally in terms of financial
gifts. No one should be preferred over the others. All must be treated fairly and equally. None should be deprived his gift
from the parents. Depriving, or banning the right of inheritance, or other financial gifts during the lifetime of the parents
or the preference of a parent for one child over the other is considered according to Islam as an act of injustice. Injustice
will definitely lead to an atmosphere of hatred, anger and dismay amongst the children in a household. In fact, such an act
of injustice may, most likely, lead to animosity amongst the children, and consequently, this will affect the entire family
environment. In certain cases a special child may show a tender care for his aging parent, for instance, causing the parent
to grant such a child a special gift, or issue him the ownership of a house, a factory, a land, a farm, a car, or any other
valuable items. Islam, however considers such a financial reward to such a caring, loving and perhaps obedient child, a wrong
act. A caring child is entitled only to a reward from Allah, the Almighty. Although it is nice to grant such a child something
in appreciation for his dedication and special efforts, this must not lead to an act of disobedience to Allah, the Almighty.
It may be that the heart and feelings of such a loving and caring child may change, at one point in time, causing him to become
a nasty and harmful child. By the same token, a nasty child may change, at any given time, as well, to become a very caring
and kind child to the same parent. The hearts and feelings are, as we all know, in the hands of Allah, the Almighty, and can
be turned in any direction at any given time and without any previous notice. This, indeed, is one of the reasons for preventing
the act of financial preference of a child over another. On the other hand, there is also no assurance or guarantee that a
caring child can handle the financial gift of his parent wisely.
It is narrated by Abu Bakr, RAA, who said that Allah's Apostle, PBUH, was
approached by one of his companions, al-N'uman bin Basheer, who said: "O Prophet of Allah! I have granted a servant to one
of my children (asking him to testify to that gift)." But Allah's PBUH asked him: "Did you grant the same to each and every
child of yours?" When Allah's Apostle, PBUH was informed negatively about that, he said: "Fear Allah, the Almighty,
and be fair and just to all your children. Seek the testimony of another person, other than me. I will not testify to an act
of injustice." This Hadith is reported by both Bukhari and Muslim. Thus, Allah's Apostle, PBUH called such an act of preference
of one child over the others an act of "injustice." Injustice is prohibited and forbidden in Islam.
But, if a parent granted one of his children financial help to fulfill
a necessity, such as a medical treatment coverage, the cost of a marriage, the cost of initializing a business, etc., then
such a grant would not be categorized an act of injustice and unfairness. Such a gift will fall under the right to spend in
the essential needs of the children, which is a requirement that a parent must fulfill.
Islam sees that if parents fulfill their duties towards all their children
in terms of providing them with necessary training, educational backing, moral, ethical and religious education, this will
definitely lead to a more caring child, a better family atmosphere and a better social environment and awareness. On the other
hand, any negligence in those parental duties can lead to the loss of a child or ill treatment of the parents at a later age.